Recently, our executive team had a “rumble.” There we are, each of us on the zoom call, with our unique perspectives that aren’t matching up, and a good helping of our past experiences to season the conversation.
Kara starts the call grounding us in a passage from Brene Brown’s Dare to Lead. Kara reads, “A rumble is a discussion, or conversation… defined by a commitment to lean into vulnerability, to stay curious and generous, to stick with the messy middle… to be fearless in owning our parts, and… to listen with the same passion with which we want to be heard… to show up with an open heart and mind so we can serve the work and each other, not our egos.”
With this generous cue, we take a deep breath and dive in.
I most often think of ‘honoring’ as soaking in the bath or making sure I get a walk in for the day. In this conversation, honoring ourselves looks like saying the hard thing (I don’t feel heard, I’m frustrated, I’m tired) especially when it is easier to say, “I’m fine.”
By practicing the hard conversations that include speaking up for ourselves we are strengthening the muscle to honor ourselves in the other important relationships of our lives as well. When we can say the ‘uncomfortable’ we can trust that the uncomfortable can be said – and we don’t have to spend precious time worrying or wondering when it is all on the table.
Daily, our team honors our commitment to each other and to this work. Sometimes it is celebrating a goal we reached, sometimes it is having a hard conversation, and sometimes it is going for a walk. We exemplify what we are here to do in the world and demonstrate to ourselves what we stand for. This is honoring ourselves to honor the world.